THREE-DIMENSIONAL LEADERSHIP OBJECT: The above picture was taken in September, 2022. What you see in this picture is an attempt to create a three-dimensional object that makes a lasting statement on leadership. This object is informed by my time as a Blue Hawk at Dickinson State University (DSU). I had the greatest honor of graduating from my hometown college. I also had the greatest honor of being a Theodore Roosevelt Honors Leadership Scholar. I will try to carry this leadership object with me as often as I can as a reminder of the person I need to be. We all need to be someone for others, yet we often fall short of this.
As a former TR scholar, I am forever grateful for my time working with people who embodied the most important word I have found in my life. That word keeps me grounded. That word keeps me in touch with my best disposition, action, and thought. I can remember so many of my favorite instructors embodying this word. It is a word that I need to remind myself frequently to strive for in my everyday living. I frequently find myself doing the opposite. I was notorious in my early 20s for leaving any family event five minutes after I arrived. I didn't have the patience needed to engage my family members. I would always think that it was more exciting somewhere else. I would always think it was more relaxing somewhere else. I would always think there's someone more interesting to talk to somewhere else. But our most important steps in life often begin at home. They begin with how we treat our family, and it was in seeing how I acted with my family in my early 20s (and latter part of my 20s) where I realized I have a problem with patience. So, I began to find ways to be more patient. It took a lot of discipline. It took a lot of self-talk. I would frequently tell myself when stuck in traffic, for example, that I should use this time to plan a class. Use this time to plan your next vacation. Use this time to plan your next brilliant dish for supper, a meal to share with your wife. I would, in short, find different ways of occupying my mind--which grew my mind.
Patience is a precursor to intellect. Those who want to grow their knowledge must first begin by growing their patience. One of my DSU instructors who comes readily to mind that embodied patience is Dr. David Solheim. He was one of my favorite English instructors at DSU, and he would frequently pause in class, smile in class. And he didn't always have to be talking. He didn't always have to be doing something. He had a calm about him that I can only define as patience.
Another figure who stands out in my head when it comes to patience was Theodore Roosevelt. However, he does not stand out in the same way as does my favorite instructor. Roosevelt was, according to Theodore Roosevelt on Leadership, a rather impatient individual. Author James Strock specifically refers to Roosevelt as the “most the combative of men” (13). In this instance in his work, Strock is trying to show how Roosevelt was a particularly impatient person, yet he often rose above his faults. Strock’s point is that people can often overcome a character flaw to be more than they have ever thought possible. Strock writes, on Roosevelt, that, “This most combative of men would be the first American to receive the Nobel Peace Prize” (13).
Just like Roosevelt, I realize that any pursuit worth doing requires me to discipline myself. I need to know my weaknesses. I also need to recognize my spirit. Everyone does. People are too often ready to undermine their own potential. An example is the introvert versus extrovert argument. At any point, and I’ve seen this frequently in my own life, people can be both depending on the situation. People often need a place of solace to find themselves. People often need a community of people to share their ideas, their experiences, their ambitions. People are more complex than the terms extrovert and introvert suggest. The same is true of one’s character. Everyone can be a leader. Everyone can aspire for more. It takes a single word to do this. Everyone is a word away from making the world a better place.
The word I need to charge myself with is patience. To me patience implies acts of discipline. It means I get excited by the prospect of doing something difficult. It is difficult to tell myself to be patient when I’m stuck in traffic. It is difficult to tell myself to be patient when my children criticize me. But it is not impossible, either.
Because the word patience means so much to me, I need to carry it always. I innovated a three-dimensional object to remind me of what I need to be. This three-dimensional object is one that creates a lasting statement on leadership in my own life. It is a statement to be the best version of myself when necessary. It is, more importantly, a statement to model the most important character trait in culture today. It is one that few have developed in themselves. The world improves tremendously when people elect to forgo anger and instead exercise restraint. That is how it was with Theodore Roosevelt; that is how it is with me. Everyone is called to be the best version of themselves. Patience is a precursor to bringing about great change in the world.
I have witnessed so many benefits in my own life with patience. One word has meant the difference in my life between fostering meaningful relationships instead of turning people away. People need people, and it is impossible to build meaningful relationships independent of listening. Listening is perhaps the greatest act of patience. Looking someone in the eye and having patience to ask them questions and prioritize them takes a lot of patience. The way to the top in any setting is through growing meaningful relationships. The key to this growth is patience.